I’m Just Gonna Leave This Here….

This above quote is spot on.

I’m all for using social media platforms to express your emotions, creativity and all that awesome stuff… But airing your “dirty laundry” – well that is something COMPLETELY different!!! This has been something I have chosen not to talk about for as long as I have been on any social media sites, particularly Facebook. So this is something I’ve truly thought long and hard about. It’s something I’ve felt the need to open up and talk about as quite frankly, enough is enough.

When you air your grievances publicly about a person who you are seemingly close to (like a partner, family member, friend, etc), you are painting a bad light around them. And when people see/heard what you have said, without listening to the other side, the people will side with you, because lets face it… You’re the one who has to put up with what this person has done to annoy you or upset you or made you angry, right? It’s bad enough that you’ve done this to someone you say you love/like, but surely it makes people wonder WHY you did this and HAVE YOU SPOKEN TO THAT MENTIONED person?

Let’s just put it like this, I’m happily married and have been in a relationship with my husband for nearly 10 years. In that time, there has been no reason to air negative things or “dirty laundry” publicly because he and I COMMUNICATE! Communication is key in all aspects of life. In my honest opinion, if you resort to airing your “dirty laundry” on social media, you and the person you’re not happy with are not successfully communicating and resolving your differences in private. If it gets heated, remove yourself from that situation, calm down and revisit it when you’re both okay to do so.

Please, for the love of all things that are great with you and that person, don’t make them out to be bad when there is no need for it! You’re making a mountain out of an ant hill!
Have a wonderful week and HAPPY EASTER to you all!

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Pondering……

Oh how the mind wanders….

It’s the second week back in Australia from the big wedding/honeymoon/adventure in the USA.

And it’s been a month since my LBJ and I got hitched! Wow, that went really quick! Isn’t it funny how as you get older, time just flies?¬†Marriage I don’t think has changed us, and really to be honest, I don’t think it will. I guess it’s because we have been together for so long already that we were “unofficially” married. Who knows, I’m no expert on the matter, and every relationship is different.

It’s crazy, and it’s crazy to think that it has now been over a month since my family and I lost someone very dear to us. I believe it, but there’s a part of me that is still in disbelief. I haven’t really grieved I guess, I do know that day will come though. I was (and still am) devastated at the loss, especially because we were not in the country at the time.

What’s even crazier than that, is when something happens like you’re talking on the phone to someone near and dear, the ONLY person you’re paying attention to at that very moment, then out of nowhere and so sudden. You snap. Like a light bulb literally exploded in your mind and you realise in that moment, where you are, where you should be, what you are meant to be doing other than talking to that one person, and you don’t want to do it anymore. It may have taken days, weeks, months or even years of the same old crap day-in day-out and a few meltdowns to realise that if you stay where you are and not change your life, you will eventually die (not necessarily in the physical way but definitely in the losing yourself and soul kind of way).

So what does one do in this situation? How would you deal with this situation? Do you keep trying even though your heart, mind and soul are screaming to stop? I can say from recent experience, that there was no more trying. I walked. I removed myself from the situation that was killing my existence, and in doing so, I began to understand myself again and it felt like the weight of negativity that I carried for so long lifted. It was the final piece in the puzzle to make me feel good again.

Cutting negativity from your life makes you better, you see clearer, you are happier and most of all, the people around you are happier. Happier because they got their loved one back! Like the image says, “A negative mind will never give you a positive life”. Remember that. Always remember that.unknown-author-negative-mind-positive-life